On Letting your Freak Flag Fly and Other Thoughts on Uniqueness
I recently read a really great post by on Life and Love Jones about celebrating “otherness” especially your own. It took me a terminal cancer diagnosis (at age 24 no less!) to realize life is just too darn short to worry about acceptance and being “normal” (whatever that is.) I wasn’t able to be fully myself though until I met my husband and learned what it was like to have a real, true ally. Once you have that… You can do anything.
Thinking about this topic in connection with being a parent makes me wonder: “If it took me well into my twenties to truly appreciate my uniqueness, how can I support and encourage my children to be confident and let their own little “freak flags” fly?”
I think more than anything, it’s loving them AND OURSELVES unconditionally.
I’m not religious per se, but I do believe that if God, or the Universe, or Mother Earth created me (and my girls) we HAVE GOT TO be cool, beautiful, funny, talented, etc. or why else would we be here? I believe we are all born this way, though many of us mute ourselves to fit in to a monochromatic world.
As Marianne Williamson wrote in her book Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles (often falsely attributed to Nelson Mandela)”
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so
that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other
people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.”
If we all embraced our uniqueness… Just think how amazing the world would be…
Now go on our there and be WIERD dangit!